This is my uncle Joey Jacobson’s grave in Lichtenvoorde General Cemetery in the Netherlands. The photo was sent to me by a man I know only because he read my book, Joey Jacobson’s War, a few years ago, and who went out of his way last week to visit Joey’s grave. I was deeply moved that he would honour my uncle that way. Joey lies next to his fellow crew members, all of whom perished in a bombing raid on Germany on 28 January 1942.
Our family visited Joey’s grave and took part in Netherland’s Remembrance and Liberation Day observances on May 4thand 5th, 2008. These are important days in the Netherlands, not simply remembered but observed with gratitude and reverence. Yesterday, as on that day that we were present, the ceremony of observance in Lichtenvoorde would have been followed by a walk to the cemetery where Joey and 22 other Commonwealth airmen are buried. Children would have laid flowers by their headstones.
This week is the 80th anniversary of VE Day, when Nazi Germany was finally defeated. I see too little sign that we in Canada plan to observe the day with the same depth and intensity as the Dutch people, but we should. They do not forget, and neither should we. Yes, the fighting was very far away from us, and we were neither occupied nor liberated, but Canadians were front and centre in the struggle, at the cost of many thousands of lives. And we should remember what they fought and died for, and against.
This is what Joey’s father recorded in his diary that day in Montreal when victory was declared.
My own feelings were mixed. I was glad … that is putting it mildly for the millions of people who could again feel with relief that their own were safe. I knew that I had in my thoughts rather feared the day when the realization of our personal loss would be … well I will leave it at that … I just felt lost for a while. I sat in Murrays drinking coffee for an hour, then walked along St. Catherine Street watching the crowds celebrate. … We closed our offices at noon. I went home to lunch in the usual way. Arranged to send some V Day flowers, red and white, to May whom I knew was feeling very much the same as I felt. We spent the afternoon quietly together. … Sounds a very trite description of one of the greatest days in history but my spirits were flat and I am not going to embellish this account with stuff that I did not feel.
80 years later, it is still appropriate to observe VE Day as the occasion for celebration, reflection, loss, and remembrance.